(From Dr. Joe Archives, http://www.drjoe.com/MasterFile.htm)
971113 — Dear Dr. Joe: Would you say some words about the Frosty Morgan tragedy? — Red Bluff Mom.
Dear RB Mom: Probably the greatest grief mankind bears is that of a mother for her dead child.
Fathers may grieve for the real reason of lost love or the symbolic reason of discontinued genes . But mothers grieve for that true part of themselves torn asunder, as if the womb had suddenly been emptied.
(For those who don't know, Frosty Morgan was a 14-year-old girl who was stuck by a hit-and-run pickup truck on West Walnut Street near Baker Road. She died without regaining consciousness, and her funeral was held yesterday.
(Donations to help her mother with expenses can be sent to the Frosty Morgan Fund, c/o Tehama Bank, 237 South Main St., Red Bluff.)
Grieving was first studied in this modern era by Swiss Psychiatrist Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, who later became convinced of past-lives, after-lives, channeling spirits, etc.
Regardless of her later interests, her earlier work is fruitful for doing what's today called "grief work."
Kübler-Ross identified a "grief cycle" that usually occurs:
1. Denial: the shock is so great that reality is literally denied. Younger children often do this completely, adults to a lesser extent.
2. Anger: the hurt causes us to lash out, to blame whatever and whomever's available.
3. Bargaining: such as, "Oh, God, if you just bring him back, I'll do such-and-such."
4. Depression: when all the energy, all the fight has gone out of the griever and left him with ennui, a sense of purposelessness.
5. Acceptance: when healing has taken place, when the energy returns and even joy can sometimes happen.
Does the hurt ever completely go away? Probably not, but the sting eventually does, and the dull ache can recede into a deeply-held place of bittersweet tenderness.
In the song "Try to Remember" there is this line: "Deep in December it's nice to remember, Although we know the snow may follow; Deep in December it's nice to remember, Without a hurt, the heart is hollow."
If we didn't have our hurts and sadness, we'd not be human, but instead be pure intellectual monstrosities, cold and uncaring.
What a horrible way to live!
971113 — Dear Dr. Joe: Would you say some words about the Frosty Morgan tragedy? — Red Bluff Mom.
Dear RB Mom: Probably the greatest grief mankind bears is that of a mother for her dead child.
Fathers may grieve for the real reason of lost love or the symbolic reason of discontinued genes . But mothers grieve for that true part of themselves torn asunder, as if the womb had suddenly been emptied.
(For those who don't know, Frosty Morgan was a 14-year-old girl who was stuck by a hit-and-run pickup truck on West Walnut Street near Baker Road. She died without regaining consciousness, and her funeral was held yesterday.
(Donations to help her mother with expenses can be sent to the Frosty Morgan Fund, c/o Tehama Bank, 237 South Main St., Red Bluff.)
Grieving was first studied in this modern era by Swiss Psychiatrist Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, who later became convinced of past-lives, after-lives, channeling spirits, etc.
Regardless of her later interests, her earlier work is fruitful for doing what's today called "grief work."
Kübler-Ross identified a "grief cycle" that usually occurs:
1. Denial: the shock is so great that reality is literally denied. Younger children often do this completely, adults to a lesser extent.
2. Anger: the hurt causes us to lash out, to blame whatever and whomever's available.
3. Bargaining: such as, "Oh, God, if you just bring him back, I'll do such-and-such."
4. Depression: when all the energy, all the fight has gone out of the griever and left him with ennui, a sense of purposelessness.
5. Acceptance: when healing has taken place, when the energy returns and even joy can sometimes happen.
Does the hurt ever completely go away? Probably not, but the sting eventually does, and the dull ache can recede into a deeply-held place of bittersweet tenderness.
In the song "Try to Remember" there is this line: "Deep in December it's nice to remember, Although we know the snow may follow; Deep in December it's nice to remember, Without a hurt, the heart is hollow."
If we didn't have our hurts and sadness, we'd not be human, but instead be pure intellectual monstrosities, cold and uncaring.
What a horrible way to live!
(From Dr. Joe Archives, http://www.drjoe.com/MasterFile.htm)
971113 — Dear Dr. Joe: Would you say some words about the Frosty Morgan tragedy? — Red Bluff Mom.
Dear RB Mom: Probably the greatest grief mankind bears is that of a mother for her dead child.
Fathers may grieve for the real reason of lost love or the symbolic reason of discontinued genes . But mothers grieve for that true part of themselves torn asunder, as if the womb had suddenly been emptied.
(For those who don't know, Frosty Morgan was a 14-year-old girl who was stuck by a hit-and-run pickup truck on West Walnut Street near Baker Road. She died without regaining consciousness, and her funeral was held yesterday.
(Donations to help her mother with expenses can be sent to the Frosty Morgan Fund, c/o Tehama Bank, 237 South Main St., Red Bluff.)
Grieving was first studied in this modern era by Swiss Psychiatrist Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, who later became convinced of past-lives, after-lives, channeling spirits, etc.
Regardless of her later interests, her earlier work is fruitful for doing what's today called "grief work."
Kübler-Ross identified a "grief cycle" that usually occurs:
1. Denial: the shock is so great that reality is literally denied. Younger children often do this completely, adults to a lesser extent.
2. Anger: the hurt causes us to lash out, to blame whatever and whomever's available.
3. Bargaining: such as, "Oh, God, if you just bring him back, I'll do such-and-such."
4. Depression: when all the energy, all the fight has gone out of the griever and left him with ennui, a sense of purposelessness.
5. Acceptance: when healing has taken place, when the energy returns and even joy can sometimes happen.
Does the hurt ever completely go away? Probably not, but the sting eventually does, and the dull ache can recede into a deeply-held place of bittersweet tenderness.
In the song "Try to Remember" there is this line: "Deep in December it's nice to remember, Although we know the snow may follow; Deep in December it's nice to remember, Without a hurt, the heart is hollow."
If we didn't have our hurts and sadness, we'd not be human, but instead be pure intellectual monstrosities, cold and uncaring.
What a horrible way to live!
971113 — Dear Dr. Joe: Would you say some words about the Frosty Morgan tragedy? — Red Bluff Mom.
Dear RB Mom: Probably the greatest grief mankind bears is that of a mother for her dead child.
Fathers may grieve for the real reason of lost love or the symbolic reason of discontinued genes . But mothers grieve for that true part of themselves torn asunder, as if the womb had suddenly been emptied.
(For those who don't know, Frosty Morgan was a 14-year-old girl who was stuck by a hit-and-run pickup truck on West Walnut Street near Baker Road. She died without regaining consciousness, and her funeral was held yesterday.
(Donations to help her mother with expenses can be sent to the Frosty Morgan Fund, c/o Tehama Bank, 237 South Main St., Red Bluff.)
Grieving was first studied in this modern era by Swiss Psychiatrist Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, who later became convinced of past-lives, after-lives, channeling spirits, etc.
Regardless of her later interests, her earlier work is fruitful for doing what's today called "grief work."
Kübler-Ross identified a "grief cycle" that usually occurs:
1. Denial: the shock is so great that reality is literally denied. Younger children often do this completely, adults to a lesser extent.
2. Anger: the hurt causes us to lash out, to blame whatever and whomever's available.
3. Bargaining: such as, "Oh, God, if you just bring him back, I'll do such-and-such."
4. Depression: when all the energy, all the fight has gone out of the griever and left him with ennui, a sense of purposelessness.
5. Acceptance: when healing has taken place, when the energy returns and even joy can sometimes happen.
Does the hurt ever completely go away? Probably not, but the sting eventually does, and the dull ache can recede into a deeply-held place of bittersweet tenderness.
In the song "Try to Remember" there is this line: "Deep in December it's nice to remember, Although we know the snow may follow; Deep in December it's nice to remember, Without a hurt, the heart is hollow."
If we didn't have our hurts and sadness, we'd not be human, but instead be pure intellectual monstrosities, cold and uncaring.
What a horrible way to live!
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