From FAG Member (47129998)
Interesting article here: Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.), 24 Oct. 1943. https://chroniclingamerica.loc.gov/lccn/sn83045462/1943-10-24/ed-1/seq-25/
Not sure what happened to his wife. Articles about their marriage: https://chroniclingamerica.loc.gov/lccn/sn83045433/1922-06-06/ed-1/seq-5/ and https://chroniclingamerica.loc.gov/lccn/sn83045462/1922-06-05/ed-1/seq-8/
She was in DC, living with her mother, in 1943. https://chroniclingamerica.loc.gov/lccn/sn83045462/1943-10-24/ed-1/seq-21/
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USNR WORLD WAR II
Captain [then Commander], Elmer P. Abernethy
Hometown: Los Angeles, California
Service #
Awards: Navy Cross, Purple Heart

Citation:
The President of the United States takes pleasure in presenting the Navy Cross to Elmer P. Abernethy, Captain [then Commander], U.S. Navy, for extraordinary heroism and distinguished service in the line of his profession as Commanding Officer of the Fleet Oiler U.S.S. PECOS (AO-6), during the sinking of that vessel by Japanese air forces, off Christmas Island on 1 March 1942. Captain Abernethy put up a terrific fight against waves of dive bombers which swept down out of the sun. When the ship finally was overwhelmed and sinking, he calmly directed abandoning operations under a hail of fire from enemy fliers who kept circling the ship and strafing helpless survivors clinging to life rafts and floating debris. Captain Abernethy's conduct throughout was in keeping with the highest traditions of the Navy of the United States.
Bureau of Naval Personnel Information Bulletin No. 319 (October 1943)
Born: June 14, 1899 at Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

Military Information: RADM, US NAVY